How do you know if it is really over?
My ex-boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months or so and things were going so well. I was coming off of a long-term relationship (I was single for about 4 months prior to us getting together), so I wanted to take things slow. We had great chemistry, challenged

The Psychology of Selfish Lovers
People are often in unfulfilling relationships.  The dynamic of one partner always giving and the other always taking is common.  When requests are made for the takers to give up some part of themselves, they usually decline or flee, at once feeling alarmed and afraid.  What is the psychology that

Unequal Love Across The Color Line
Stories about black women, marriage and interracial relationships have always generated controversy, strong opinions and stereotyped assumptions. The other day I got a comment from "Brenda" about my High-Achieving Black Women and Marriage: Not Choosing Or Not Chosen? piece, saying: "was this whole article to help you rationalize why some

What Do We "Owe" Our Partners? Obligation in Relationships
In my last post, I discussed the value of commitments, and also why commitment--especially in the case of marriage--gets a bad rap. In this post, I want to elaborate on those thoughts a bit, this time focusing on obligations within relationship.Let me be clear--I don't like the idea of obligation

"Love Me, Love My Sexuality"
Today and Saturday I am going to do a couple of posts inspired by comments on recent sex posts.  Tomorrow “Being loving when sex is lacking”. Today “Love me, Love my Sexuality”. First let me say that it’s not just men who want their spouse to know that “I love

5 Jersey Shore Dating Tips We'd Actually Use
Last Thursday, we and 5.3 million others welcomed back our favorite fist-pumpers--only this time they're GTL'ing on the shores of Miami. If the premiere was but a slice of the upcoming guido cake, we're bound to love this season even more than the last. There's just something about the abnormally