How to Heal from Infidelity
Infidelity is certainly one of the most challenging issues a couple can face. The depth of pain experienced by the partner who was cheated on can be excruciating and unrelenting. For those who are not able to move past this transgression, it can represent the death of the relationship. The

Get so close she can't demonize you
“The closer you get to someone, something, some brand, some organization…the harder it is to demonize it, objectify it or hate it. So, if you want to not be hated, open up. Let people in. Engage. Interact.” –Seth Godin Let me reword that for marraige - The closer you get

I'm really glad this question was asked....
New Answer - I'm really glad this question was asked. Around when I first started going out with my current boyfriend, I had thoughts about a mutual friend of ours (who was actually responsible for us getting together, really). The friend gets around a decent bit, and definately has the

Five Things an Affair May Not Mean
So it's finally come to this: one way or another, you're convinced your partner is having an affair. What now?In Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, Cacilda Jethá, my co-author (and wife) and I argue that there's a good reason long term sexual monogamy is hard for

Four Tricks to Stop Obsessing
You know the signs: that sick feeling in your stomach, those tossing/turning nights, food that tastes like cardboard and a mind that whirs relentlessly like an old-time computer that refuses to shut down. When a relationship ends, particularly when you didn't see it coming, your mind is in torment and

Stop Being So Defensive!
I rarely admit this (and frankly, I wonder why I'm doing it now), but I am a very defensive person. I can be quick to feel challenged or threatened by perceived criticism. When that happens, my typical responses range from somewhat testy to downright hostile. It's not an attractive quality.